Ask Amy: Should I skip my brother’s wedding because my mom will be there?

Dear Amy: My brother is due to get married next year and while I’m really happy for him, I’m dreading the idea of having to see my mother again.

Our mom ticks all the malignant narcissistic personality disorder boxes: Emotionally immature and dysregulated, lacks empathy, disrespectful of boundaries, etc. I suffered horrendously growing up, but I was able to get away in my 30s by leaving the country. My siblings have suffered in various ways, too. Our experiences growing up have meant that we are not close. This is partly because our mother has bad-mouthed us to each other over the decades.