Choosing to end a marriage is never an easy decision to make.
One man has claimed he is considering divorcing his wife as he has realised he no longer wants to spend "the rest of his life" with her. And while that's a common situation for many divorces, there's one slight problem - she's currently pregnant with their second child. The man understands that "divorce is never easy", especially when there are children involved, but he still believes it's the "lesser of two evils" when his wife's attitude regularly pushes him "to the brink".
In a post on Reddit, the anonymous man claimed his spouse exhibits "poor behaviour" by not cleaning up after herself and spending money that they "don't have". He alleged these issues have been going on since before she fell pregnant, but they've been slowly impacting his "happiness and sanity" to the point where he no longer wants to be married to her.
He wrote: "As each day passes, it becomes more solidified that I no longer want to spend the rest of my life with her. I have grown what feels like an insurmountable resentment for her with the feeling becoming more mutual. Divorce, I'd imagine is never easy but I feel like it's the lesser of two evils rather than being married to someone who seems to push my sanity to the brink.
"My house is always a mess (even pre-children) because nothing ever gets put away when she's done with it. Her poor behaviour can always be justified but no one else is given this same grace. She spends money that we don't have like it's going out of style but adds very little to household/living expenses (90/10)."
The man claimed his wife's pregnancy has made her "attitude worse", and he no longer believes his home situation is what he wants to "model for his kids' future". He added that he realised his relationship was "over" when his wife asked him to "say something sweet" about her and he "drew a blank".
Now, the man is preparing to divorce his wife "shortly after" she gives birth, and said the only reason he isn't doing it immediately is for "the sake of her and the baby's health".
In an edit, he added: "My thought is somewhere between 6-12 months after birth depending on how things progress. Regardless of how some of it may read, this is still the mother of my children and if nothing else I want her to be mentally and emotionally stable as a parent."
Commenters on the post were torn, as while many agreed that no one should stay in an unhappy marriage, they also said the man was wrong for getting his wife pregnant when there were already problems in their relationship and therefore making the situation more complicated.
One person said: "So you knew all this and then decided let's have a baby? Why do people wait until they have a kid to decide marriage isn't working? Poor kid." Another added: "Why did you get her pregnant again? You're not that bright, are you? Shut down all unnecessary expenses for both of you now and go to marriage counselling."
A third person also wrote: "You're not the a**hole for your feelings about her behaviours. That's life sometimes. But you are the a**hole for not taking double precautions to not get her pregnant repeatedly when you’ve been feeling this way for some time."
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