17 Sex Pillow Positions That’ll Put Your Bod in All the Right Places
The secret to hotter sex is already sitting on your bed. 😈
They don’t vibrate, rumble, or do much of anything other than sit there, tbh, but a sex pillow has the potential to be your new favorite sex toy—seriously. See for yourself with one (or hell, all) of these sex pillow positions designed to highlight the huge difference in how sex feels when paired with the magic of a well-placed pillow.
“Sex pillows, wedges, and cushions are like yoga blocks; they help position the body into otherwise hard-to-reach positions and achieve unattainable angles and out-of-the-way body parts,” says Alicia Sinclair, CEO and founder of Le Wand Massager, The Cowgirl sex machine, and b-Vibe.
Sometimes, adjusting the angle just a smidge can change everything. “Sex pillows provide better angles for clitoral and internal/prostate stimulation while also promoting play and providing an avenue for creative exploration,” says founder of Austin Concierge Therapy, Sara Sloan, LMFT, CST, an AASECT-certified marriage and family therapist, and certified Imago therapist. “They’re a must-have for any couple wanting to explore new positions.”
When choosing the right sex pillow, figure out what you want it to do for you. Pillows are excellent for getting parts where they need to go, then making sure said parts are comfortable once they get there. “Sex pillows are great tools for folks with limited mobility and body pain,” says Sinclair. They also can be helpful for differently-abled couples, and, according to Sloan, many come with kink-friendly add-ons for bondage, vibrators, and other toys. (This over-achieving little pillow has spots for two sex toys.)
Not trying to buy a whole pillow just for sex? We get it. A firm regular pillow—or a few not-so-firm ones—can absolutely work, too.
Here are the positions we recommend trying out when you’re ready to get the best possible use out of your sexy new (or repurposed!) bedding.
The Pinned Butterfly
“Use a bondage cushion as both a support wedge and a restraint toy,” recommends Sinclair. One person lies on their back on the pillow with their hands fastened to the built-in cuffs, while the person on top penetrates. “With part of the body restrained, and a good portion of the upper body exposed, this is a fun position to explore feather ticklers, nipple play, and maybe even a warm massage candle.”
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The Showboat
“My personal favorite sex cushion is a toy mount,” says Sinclair. “It's amazing for both solo and partnered sex. Mount your favorite wand and bend over it while your partner penetrates you from behind. You have complete control over the strength of the grinding and full use of your hands/arms to support yourself.”
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The Bump-and-Grind
Use a sex pillow or firm bed pillow to give a buffer to your knees. “Suction a powerful grinding toy onto a wall or backboard. Place a pillow under your knees and grind up and down on the product,” says Sinclair. “You could even do this with a partner behind you.” They can penetrate you, stroke your body as your grind away, or just watch you ravish yourself.
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Bucking Bronco
Give the penetrating partner an easier time during doggy style by placing a wedge under their knees. “This allows the receiver to lean back against their knees, as if they were reclining in a chair,” says Sloan. (Receiver adjusts their hips back and down, if needed/wanted.) “Their ability to lean back provides clitoral access for continued stimulation and deep-level penetration."
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High Rider
Elevate cowgirl (literally and figuratively) with a wedge or pillow under the bottom person’s butt. “This adds both height and elevation, which also allows gravity to help the top partner move forward with more power as desired,” says Sloan. “The wedge also allows the penetrating partner to push upwards in order to enhance internal hot-spot or prostate stimulation. It’s also great for deep penetration.”
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Squirting Lotus
Think: the Lotus position (aka Yab Yum), but bendier. “Instead of both partners sitting up, the receiving partner lays on their back with a pillow under their hips. The top partner is then able to lean down over the bottom partner, to embrace and make out, while the top partner thrusts in a deep forward motion,” says Sloan. “Oftentimes, the angle and the increased intimacy combine to create a full mind body connection that may result in a squirting orgasm.”
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The Rock-It Fuel
Flip a pillow onto a curved side and make it into a sex see-saw. Lie face-down with it under your hips for a rocking variation on doggy style, or use it during oral sex to rock and glide your partner along your mouth (or you on their mouth—you'll work it out).
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Little Mr./Ms. Drama-Free
A pillow that looks super innocent AND holds a big ol' wand vibrator? Yes, please. Straddle that sexy sexy pillow and hump away or lie on your side, wrap your legs around it and share a tender moment while it buzzes away obediently between your legs. Let a partner watch or keep that @#$# to yourself.
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Pillow Bound
A pillow with built-in cuffs lets you be decently comfortable within the general discomfort that is BDSM. Use the cuffs to bind ankles or wrists and see what awaits you. Is it a firm slap? A gentle lick up your inner thigh? The tickle of a toy near but not quite close enough to your clit? Guess you'll just have to find out. (You can also opt to not see what awaits you. See also: comes with blindfold.)
SHOP NOW Liberator Whirl Sex Pillow, $180, Organic Loven
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Padded Doggy
Stack pillows high on the edge of the bed and lie your upper body down on them, recommends Rashawn Brewster, MS, LMFT, co-founder and co-owner with wife Lori of Elevating Relationships couple-to-couple counseling. Press your legs together to make it better, for you and for you partner if they have a penis. “The pillows pressing against her stomach while her legs are together, create an extra snug fit for the lucky partner from behind,” says Brewster.
Lazy Dog
“If your partner isn’t particularly well-hung, you might prefer this alternative to doggy-style,” says sex and relationships coach Ashley Harris. Lie on your stomach with a pillow under your stomach and pelvis, and press your legs tightly together. “This will increase your vagina’s tightness, providing a more snug fit that you’ll both appreciate. You might need another pillow to scream into!”
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Pillow Pet
Tuck a fabulous vibe between two pillows, press your knees on either side and kneel over your buzzy love. Ride your hands-free lover solo or give your partner a show they'll be totally obsessed with.
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The Half Pipe
Make a cylinder of pillows and straddle it. Put your favorite vibrator on your clit and press it against the pillow—it'll stay in place. Your partner kneels between your legs and slowly slides a finger inside one (or both) of your holes. Let them feel the squeezes of your orgasm around their finger.
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The Deep Plunge
Feel the difference angles can make by propping some pillows under your butt during regular missionary. But not just a few pillows, a ton (like, throw-pillows-on-a-department-store-display-bed amount), so your hips are even with their penis/strap-on. Slide your ankles up by their neck and they can give you the kind of deep penetration that will make your eyes roll back in your head. Feel free to self-stimulate as you wish.
Valley of Fire
Make a pillow valley with big stiff pillows under your partner’s back, then more under their bent knees and thighs. They
sit in the little sex valley between. You get on your hands and knees to straddle the other big stiff thing (their peen/strap-on) facing away from them. This removes the usual weird angle issues of reverse cowgirl and adds more precise internal stimulation.
The Rampage
The Rampage is kind of like making a grown-up pillow fort, but sooooo worth the extra set-up time. It's extra good for people with penises who aren't huge down below because they won't slip out, plus they have a free hand to stimulate you with hand or toy. The penetrating partner sits on the bottom, legs extended, while the receiving partner lies on top at an angle with a pillow behind their back. The penetrating partner can enter anally, and/or manually stimulate the receiver.
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The Deep Dog
Put a wedge/heap of pillows at the edge of the bed, but instead of lying over with your hips, prop yourself on your knees. If you fit, stretch down to steady yourself on the bed with your hands. Your partner enters standing for a sensation akin to doggy but so....much...more.
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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