Abusive ex says he’s a ‘new man’ and wants me to leave refuge shelter
DEAR DEIDRE: MY instincts says going back to my ex will be a mistake, even though he’s promised he’s a new man after attending a “behaviour change” course.
I’m 41 and my ex is 42. We were together for eight years and have a five-year-old daughter.
He was charming at first, but became abusive.
He got so physical with me – it became almost routine.
We’d have endless arguments over nothing at all.
I’d finally had enough of him and plucked up the courage to leave.
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I’ve been living in a refuge ever since.
We only communicate via email now, to talk about our daughter.
I blocked him because he used to call me every single minute.
I still get over 25 missed calls, sarcastic texts and insults.
Am I justified to block him off and not go back?
DEIDRE SAYS: Totally. In fact, you should not have to justify wanting to keep yourself and your daughter safe.
Please do not go back.
Sometimes, people can change if they truly dedicate themselves to reform.
But judging by your ex’s current damaging behaviour, he hasn’t changed at all.
My support pack Abusive Partner? will hopefully help you to think this through.
