Mum 'disgusted' after discovering real inspiration behind her future baby's name
A pregnant woman has revealed how she's considering changing her baby's name after discovering the real reason her husband agreed to it - and it's left her feeling sick
Selecting a name for your baby isn't easy. Parents are often torn between their favourite names, and finding common ground can be quite the task as they search for the ideal name for their new bundle of joy.
On occasion, however, one parent may propose a name that's an instant hit with the other, meaning they can skip the months of arguing over a moniker and prepare for their impending arrival. While this seems perfect, what would you do if you later discovered the chosen name bears an unfavourable meaning? This is the predicament a mum-to-be shared on Reddit after such a discovery.
She conveyed on the forum that she's expecting their second child, and she and her husband settled on a name that they both "absolutely love".
Although she didn't disclose the name, the mum mentioned the couple had been considering it for "years" and said it matched perfectly with their chosen middle name. She also said her three-year-old child refers to their sibling by the name when speaking to her.
The expectant mother's dilemma arose upon uncovering what could have influenced her husband's enthusiasm for the name.
She discovered he had been exchanging "explicit messages" with a colleague who shares the name they had picked for their unborn daughter.
She said: "I've recently found explicit messages between my husband and his coworker. This has made my life completely implode.
"For starters, I don't know if I will even be staying with my husband, despite them both claiming it was never physical and that he has no love for her.
"The issue is that her name happens to be the same name I've been wanting to name my daughter. I've had no other name in mind because to me I found the perfect name.
"So, do I have this name stolen from me like so much in my life right now or keep it? I tell myself to be strong and that this was her name before their affair even started, and not to let it be taken away. But on the other hand, will I regret it and only be triggered by the whole thing from now on?"
Online commenters empathised with the woman's conundrum but eventually advised her to seek a different name for her daughter. They indicated that if the name posed an issue now, it would likely continue to do so after her child is born.
One commenter remarked: "I'd change it. If it's already on your mind, it will always be on your mind."
Someone else commented: "I wouldn't name my child after someone my spouse cheated on me with. Sucks at the coincidence. But I would scrap the name and pick out a new one.
"Every time I think of my kids name I will be reminded of the incident and be a daily reminder. Too close to home for that one myself."
Another person shared: "I think now that you have a negative association with the name, you should definitely change it. I just wouldn't want to be reminded of my ex-husband's affair partner every time I call my daughter for lunch."