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'My husband wants an hour off on Father's Day and it's driving us apart'

A mum has been slammed for not giving her husband an hour off on Father's Day while she's recovering from a C-section, despite the fact he went above and beyond for her for Mother' Day

He just wanted an hour to himself on Father's Day (stock photo)
He just wanted an hour to himself on Father's Day (stock photo)(Image: Getty)

A mum has been slammed for not giving her husband an 'hour to himself' on Father's Day while she recovers from a C-section. The 33-year-old, who has three children aged five, three and one month with her husband of eight years, is still recovering after the birth of her youngest child.

Although she is not on bed rest, she admits she can't use her body as usual or care for the children in the way she normally would. She said: "I am not on bed rest, but pretty darn close. Unless it's to go to the bathroom or changing or feeding my baby, I'm pretty much always sitting or laying down. I don't like it, but it's what my body needs to heal right now. Both my husband and I are still on maternity/paternity leave."


This means that almost all of the childcare over the past four weeks has fallen to her 36-year-old husband.


"He's been doing a great job of taking care of the older kids and making sure everything in our lives is running as smoothly as it can given our circumstances," she said.

"He's also great about taking care of the baby and giving me breaks as much as he can.

"But I can tell it's starting to wear on him mentally and physically. Neither of us is sleeping well and I swear he looks like he's lost more weight than I have since the baby came."

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She says she was unable to plan anything special for him for Father's Day as she is "pretty immobile" and thought she'd give it a miss this year.

She added: "On the morning of Father's Day, I was feeling worse than usual as I had to strain myself the day before to pick up something off the floor and I aggravated my incision.


"So, I was laid up all day. Again, this meant my husband had to do literally everything that day."

The situation escalated when bedtime for the older children came around. "By the time he got the older kids to bed, I could tell he was irritated and upset," she continued. £I told him to try and relax for a bit, but then the baby started fussing and he jumped up off the couch, grabbed a pillow, and screamed into it."

She tried to offer support, but her husband's frustration was palpable. "I tried to calm him down, but he just kept freaking out about how he's at his wits end and he needs a break and that I couldn't even find a way to give him a single hour of quiet on Father's Day."


Her attempt to console him only led to more distress. She said: "I started crying and he just looked at me and walked away to take care of the baby without saying anything."

Her husband later apologised and said he was arranging for his family to look after the older children for a week so he could have a break.

However, he shared his disappointment over receiving nothing for Father's Day and having to celebrate it on his own eating cold pizza.


She shared: "I asked him what I was supposed to do because it's not like I can move or leave the house and he said I could have looked into a sitter for the kids or made them sit with me and watch a movie for an hour so he could have just a sliver of time for himself.

"He said he feels like his needs are at the bottom of the list and he just wanted to feel like he matters for one day."

Reacting to her dilemma, one user commented: "Husband is making a cry for help, you should have found a way to offload the kids and give him a day off."

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Another person chimed in: "A literal cry for help that she turned into something he had to apologise to her for. Absolutely 100% the a***hole just for that. Poor guy."

And a third added: "His suggestion are really valid. Even in your condition, you could hire a babysitter. He is crying for help and you recognize that this is affecting him a lot, so do something about it."

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